Stage 1- PITY
I think I’ve realized a circular pattern in my life. It starts with feeling like everyone is mad at me, or lonely, or not good enough, bored, depressed, or many other things.
Stage 2- HEROISM
I then try and overcompensate. Attend every bible study, every leadership position, my job needing me extra to train new girls, doing fun things with kids, keeping the house clean, cook something without a microwave, host church meetings, paint pictures, scrapbook, organize things to make everyone’s life easier…
Stage 3- OVERWHELMED
I then have so much stuff going on I’ll forget something important and revert back to stage one. Or I’ll continue on and start feeling overwhelmed. Scrapbook is all over the place and kids have gotten into it. My organizing ends up just being everything out of all the drawers or closets but nothing put back up. Several paintings half done, brushes with paint still on it and ruined, kids feel the tension and get clingy and make putting them to bed more difficult. Wes and I haven’t talked in a week because of no time…
Stage 4- LOOKING AT LIFE IN BLENDER
I get a migraine that kills so bad I end up throwing up uncontrollably and phenergan around the clock does nothing. A certain loved one gets upset and short because the kids always fight and go crazy when they know we are at a time we can’t handle it. It is all taken out on me and how I’m not doing anything to help myself (every time I swallow spit I throw up so I’m not sure what more I can do!) Dealing with frustration is not something my family is good at with words or action…
Stage 5- SURRENDER
Most of the time I end up in the ER. I’m pumped with Zofran, lots of IV fluid, and some pain meds. I’m there a few hours and come out pretty well. Prayer life is never better than this stage. Especially during recovery when I’m well enough to read but not much else! However, it becomes time for stage one again!!!
I guess it's time for me to start prioritizing the wonderful things in the Heroism Stage!! This is my goal for the month. One thing I think will really help is me quitting my job. I just decided it was must. I don't have too many comittments especially now that soccer is over for Avery! I do have a problem remembering things though. I'm not sure why (I should have Swink test me before I quit this coming Wednesday!) but i literally always forget things unless I can pair it with something else (exp. after church on wednesday there is a meeting) Things paired with something else or my little Avery asking me about it everyday...reminding me, help me!! Otherwise I forget stuff. I've got to stop beating myself up for it. I promise it doesn't mean whatever it was was unimportant to me...it just means i'm imperfect and its just not worth a $1,000 hospital bill anymore so I can't get myself worked up. Hmm it's now 11 occlock and I neep sleep...I'm sure I'll dream about more things I need to work on but feel free to let me know how you all survive without ending up in the blender!!!!!